Fearing the unknown
Do you feel like you SO badly want to change your current situation but you just can't get over the hump of fearing the unknown?
Are you worried that if you try to make positive changes for yourself you will make a mistake and become even more stuck than you already are?
Are you afraid your effort towards improving YOUR life will not be worth the temporary inconvenience, temporary loneliness and possible upsetting of others?
For over 10 years I was that girl who put ALL of her needs aside to make sure everyone else had what they wanted and needed. I was SO concerned and invested in being approved of and accepted in certain circles and relationships that I completely lost all sense of myself, worth and value. This was fu*king scary man. Imagine waking up each day not knowing who you were, what you liked about yourself, what you were truly skilled in, who genuinely loved you or was pretending, how to make decisions without doubting yourself every millisecond, if it was more important to pay your bills or your boyfriends first so he wouldn't get mad and leave you, and a bunch of other CRAZY shit!
Just imagine living in this anxiety, self-doubt and fear each and EVERY single day for over 10 years...
Doesn't sound like a very sustainable healthy and happy life now does it!?
Are you living this way now, or something very similar?
How much LONGER are you going to betray yourself and soul?
Five years ago when I turned 30 was when I hit rock bottom. I could't keep up with it anymore. My body and relationships were SCREAMING at me to STOP and to make changes. I'm so glad I listened to all the signs that I was getting...chronic back pain (and not the kind that pain killers could heal), my skin was breaking out bad like it did in high-school, gained 20 pounds in no time, racking up thousands of dollars of debt due to shopping therapy and paying my narcissistic manipulative boyfriends bills, and getting EXTREMELY burned out at work because I wanted to prove my worth, love and value to my work colleagues and superiors who really didn't appreciate any of it, they just wanted more, more and more.
Here's the #TRUTH ladies, how I was showing up wasn't anyone's fault but my own. No one was holding a gun to my head saying I had to do all of this, saying I had to sacrifice my physical, mental and emotional well-being for approval, acceptance and love, that was MY CHOICE. And boy of boy did it cost me greatly!
Let's fast forward a bit, when I realized the damage, unbearable pain and suffering I was producing in my life I decided to get some freakin' help! I knew what got me to where I was wasn't going to get me out. That's when I discovered Life Coaching. I researched personal growth, confidence, healing and life transformation for a couple of weeks on Facebook and discovered the woman and Life Coach I wanted to help me transform my situation. Christine was the soul and guide who truly saw me and understood me WITHOUT judgement. She taught and gave me specific tools and resources to apply in my life one-by-one each day to heal from my past and to overcome the situations I had put myself in. And she was there holding me accountable every single week so I wouldn't give up and quit on myself when things got uncomfortable and hard.
Today, I am totally and completely living life on MY terms with unstoppable confidence, belief and trust in myself without apology! I met my fiance (husband in 2 weeks) 5 months after working with Christine, him and I started traveling the world together New Zealand, all of over beautiful Europe and just recently got back from India. Bought a beautiful home together. Lost the 20 pounds quickly and have kept it off without struggle, and MOST rewarding of all I've started teaching and coaching women JUST LIKE YOU on how to create the same in your own life!
For the past 4 years I've been helping my clients take their life & power back in 'A Confident Woman Unleashed' my 90 day signature program. If you are READY and COMMITTED to doing the deep inner work necessary and required to truly start living a fulfilling, purposeful and meaningful life on YOUR terms, I invite you to book in a FREE 30 Minute Clarity Call http://bit.ly/nikkiclaritycall today! Spaces are LIMITED, apply now http://bit.ly/nikkiclaritycall.
Salud to a life on YOUR terms in 2020!!😘💋💛 ~ Nikki