I wish he/she would just
MYTH: My life and relationships can be fixed as long as "he" or "she" would just {fill in the blank}_________.
TRUTH: A fulfilling life, mutually beneficial and unconditional loving relationships are cultivated and grown by YOU taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings beliefs, standards, boundaries and actions each day!
I had a booked calendar of Clarity Calls yesterday and WOW were they powerful! Powerful meaning how these women were so FED UP with feeling out of control with their thoughts and emotions about themselves and their relationships with others. They've had ENOUGH!!!
For years they've been allowing their childhood and betrayal from past relationships completely interrupt and rule their day to day lives. Yes, they experience great moments and have wonderful things and people to be grateful for now today, but their BIGGEST issue and what they continue to struggle with and always seem to revert back to that is holding them back and keeping them in so much pain and suffering on a daily basis is obsessing about what isn't "right" or "who" doesn't see, love or understand them, today.
This behavior of 'obsessive thoughts" and thinking about your past (and future) and what is out of your control is what's sucking your life force energy keeping you from TRULY living in the moment, being happy and from reaching your full potential in life, love, relationships and success!
You MUST learn how to let go of and accept what is out of your control. "Control" by the way is just an illusion, you never have or had control over any situation or person before, not now and not in the past. HOWEVER, you ALWAYS have control over how you choose to 'react' or 'respond' to a situation or person. #fact #truth
Think about a time something you wanted or how a conversation went the way you had hoped it would. Why do you think it happened this way?
Could it because 'You' showed up authentic, sincere, confident, sure of yourself, with high standards and etc...Think about that for a moment. Really, think about a time in your life when a problem or situation with something and/or someone resulted in a desirable outcome.
How did YOU show up, react or respond? Could the way you showed up be why things were resolved for the best?
Now, think about a time you reacted or responded in a panic, outrage, anxious, people pleasing or fearful manner. How did this particular situation end up panning out?
You see, YOU my love are the one responsible for your thoughts, feelings and behavior at all times, not the other person. Stop giving them that power over you.
You truly have the resources and power WITHIN YOU already to create the life you wish and are worthy of. You are the one who gets to choose if you will continue allowing your past to make you feel upset, guilty, shameful and resentful OR if you will heal, process it and let it go!!
If you are ready and COMMITTED to diving in on healing from your past and rewriting a new story for yourself, I can help you! For the past 4 years I've been teaching my clients this proven 8-step process in 'A Confident Woman Unleashed' my 90 day signature program and IT WORKS!! If you want in, book a FREE 30 Minute Clarity Call http://bit.ly/nikkiclaritycall
to learn your next steps! Do it now while you have this beautiful GIFT of time!!
Much love ~ Nikki💛